Learning from children : Resilience

One of the most wonderful and often surprising things about being a mother is just how much my children teach me. My four children have been teaching me things from the moment they were each born. And the more they all grow, the more I learn about life and about myself from each of them both as individuals and also in their wonderful little unit of four. 

Here's a little lesson about resilience from my eldest, Imogen. 

Resilience

I am always amazed at how resilient children are. They are so much tougher than we give them credit for and they can really teach us how to follow their lead. 

It is the resilience they show when they are learning that inspires me the most. Learning new things is hard. It takes time, patience and resilience.

At Easter we went down to Cornwall and we took Imogen surfing for the first time. When we booked her first lesson I explained that it would be hard. That she might get cold, disheartened and exhausted. I was so worried that she would get in the water, get cold quickly, get knocked off her board in the waves, get salt water in her eyes and give up within minutes. But I also knew just how much she would love it if she could get over all the hard stuff. Imogen is a strong swimmer and I knew she could do it but it still made me concerned.

She simply looked out at the sea, smiled and said "Don't worry Mummy, I'm resilient." 

Yes, yes exactly. The next day she went out surfing with Stef and loved it so much. Yes she got cold and needed hot chocolate and so much to eat afterwards but she stood up on her board and feel in love with surfing and the sea. 

That afternoon we both went back to the surf school and booked in another lesson. This time for both of us. I haven't been in the sea with a surfboard since my uni days. That is a long time ago. I've had four children since then. I knew I'd be mostly in the water with people so much younger than me and way more likely to stand up on their boards. But I looked out at the sea and looked at all the boards and wetsuits all lined up and I just couldn't not say yes. 

As the lesson time got closer I was so tempted to pull out. To ask Stef to go instead of me. To make up some excuse. But I held onto Imogen's resilience and spirit. She gave me the strength and determination to do it. I can be resilient too....even in the water with a surfboard at the age of 40! 

Learning from children : Resilience

The minute I got the wetsuit on I felt so excited and happy. I spent so much time in the sea during my early 20s and once I was back in there with the waves and the salt and the complete emersion in that special place I lost all worries about my age or falling off, or getting salt in my eyes and up my nose. It was simply the best and just so wonderful to be back there.

And it's has a lasting impression too. Just those two hours in the water. It's given renewed trust and belief in my resilience levels for all of my life and work...not just in the sea. Thank you Imogen. xo

 

MYO : the launch of a brilliant creative magazine.

I am so happy that the first blog post blog I am writing after announcing my return to my personal journal space is this one. On Saturday my children and I went to the launch event for MYO magazine. 

MYO (Make Your Own) magazine is a new publication by Donna Wilson celebrating creativity. It is beautiful and so inspiring. And packed full of great things to make, which we can't wait to start working our way through soon. 

The launch event was magical. It was held in Protein Studios in Shoreditch and when we arrived the stage was set for a puppet show and full of Donna's wonderful knitted trees. The puppet show, "Goose The Bear" was a complete treat and thoroughly enjoyed be everyone in the audience whatever their age. It was performed by Ljubljana Puppet Theatre and all the puppets had been created by Donna. 

MYO Launch : Image by Gareth Hacker
MYO Launch : Image by Gareth Hacker
MYO Launch : Image by Gareth Hacker

After the puppet show there were a whole host of workshops, including cup cake decorating with BKD, robot drawing with Line Us, necklace making with Rosy Nicholas, and the cutest art supply station I have ever seen with badge making at The Amazing Art Cart

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MYO Launch Event
MYO Launch Event
MYO Launch Event
MYO Launch Event
MYO Launch Event
MYO Launch Event
MYO Launch Event
MYO Launch Event
MYO Launch Event
MYO Launch Event
MYO Launch Event
MYO Launch Event

We all loved it all and my children asked when we could next go back to make more stuff! 

Subscribe to MYO today for a dose of wonderful creativity straight to your door twice a year. xo 

The images of the puppet show were taken by Gareth Hacker and the rest are with my iPhone 6s. 

From blog to business and back again

Hello there lovely readers! I hope you are having a good day. I am here today to share some news about my blogging and this blog. If you have followed me for a long time you might remember how this blog all started. It was called ‘The Startup Wife’ and I wrote it at first as a way of getting my head around the crazy life of the wife of an entrepreneur who was working insane hours in London, while I went slowly mad in a small town in the home counties with our 3 young children. This was before we had 4 little ones. And before we’d worked out that my work was kind of important too! (Not that either of us every belittled anything I was doing at the time but the all in focus had to be on Stef's company at the time). 

I blogged to help me live my best life. I loved it. It connected me to people all over the world even on the days when I didn't venture further than the local park. As well as writing and sharing to keep sane it was also part of a bigger plan to build my own business. It was great for that too. Fast forward a few years and that entrepreneur working insane hours is now working with me full time from home! 

Blog to Business

The Start-Up Wife changed it's name to Makelight when I saw that my workshops were becoming popular and the work I was doing alongside the blog was growing. Along the way this blog had to grow with Makelight and I haven’t always been able to write what I’ve wanted to. The space has changed. I went from blog to business and it's amazing and wonderful that I did that and it's totally right that my blogging space became our blogging space and it moved from a personal space to a business space.

It all makes sense and I don't have any regrets about how I have build Makelight out of my blog but jeez I have missed having my own space. A space where I can write in a way that feels totally free.

This month we have been focussing on blogging in the Makelight Membership, so I have been really thinking about all of this a lot more than usual. I read this great piece in our new Makelight Medium Publication by one of our members, Bex of Cup of Tea and a Bex and I thought yes, this is what writing a personal blog is all about. I really remembered the importance of writing for myself....even if there is no-one reading it. I lead a very full life, our house is a busy one and sometimes I just need a little space to call my own...even if it is a virtual one. 

Blog to Business and back again : makelight

And back again

So, this blog is going to become my very own Journal (because for years I've wanted a journal instead of a blog .... totally the same thing of course but I do love the name so much more!) and Makelight will have its own blog where Stef and I will both write. Stef needs to work some tech magic to make this happen and we’re having a bit of a crazy week here, doing that stressful ‘startup life behind the scenes stuff that you can only talk about at some point in the future’ and also trying to get everything sorted before half-term begins on Friday afternoon. Sorting out my blogging space has understandably slipped to the bottom or our to-do list. 

But…in my true style I’m just going to get on with it as if the top of this page and the URL and whatever else may happen here have changed. It will change all in good time and I’m hoping that you’ll just imagine it’s all sorted and just enjoy the posts I’m going to share here! 

I hope you will stick with me! xo